Fall asleep arm in arm

For couples newly in love, being close to the body is very important and that means falling asleep as closely as possible. In the imagination, falling asleep arm in arm is probably the most romantic sleeping position for most women.

But is this position actually beneficial for the relationship and what does it mean if your partner refuses to fall asleep arm in arm with you?

Basically, you should understand that everyone has different preferences when it comes to sleeping position. While some people can find restful sleep in almost any position, others find it difficult and can only fall asleep in the accustomed position.

The fetal position is particularly preferred. Still, it turns out that sleeping on your back is the healthiest way to go. It can therefore be helpful to learn to sleep on your back .

If love is still very fresh, there is a need for close physical contact even while sleeping This is achieved by falling asleep arm in arm with your partner. But which positions are actually suitable for this?


You can assume the closest sleeping position when you are facing each other and everyone sleeps on their side. In this starting position you can put your arms around each other and fall asleep gently.

This position is especially popular with couples in whom love is still fresh. It is a very intimate form of sleep and fulfills the need for closeness.

Over time, however, experience has shown that the desire for such a strong closeness decreases in both partners. This does not mean that love is waning or that the partnership no longer seems so important, but that sleep becomes a priority.

Because the truth is also that this position is not always comfortable and the quality of sleep can suffer as a result. What is still bearable at the beginning can become a real burden in the long run , which is why other sleeping positions are preferred over time.

If your partner keeps asking to sleep in this position, it can be a sign of an emotional problem. There can be a strong emotional dependency, which is sometimes not healthy and can damage the relationship.


A second variant of falling asleep arm in arm is the possibility of resting on the man’s strong shoulder. The partner hugs the man and lays her head on his shoulder. The man can put his arm around his partner and sleep on his back himself.

This is a better alternative in the long term, as both partners have more freedom to take their position. There is still close physical contact and a certain sense of security is signaled, but the quality of sleep does not decrease as a result.


If the light hug is not enough, the partner’s arm can also be on the opposite side of the neck and the leg can be placed on the lower body. This results in a somewhat closer body contact, which is nevertheless perceived as pleasant.

This sleeping position signals a deep trust and shows that the sex life is likely to be assessed as fulfilled by both. As long as both partners feel comfortable in this position, the quality of sleep is not reduced.


There is often the idea that falling asleep arm in arm is part of a partnership. In films this is portrayed as the most romantic position and therefore this should ideally also be the case in one’s own partnership.

The reality is different, however, and very few couples actually fall asleep in this tight position . Therefore, the question could quickly be asked whether the partnership is endangered or has love decreased?

Films and books that shape the romantic notions of this sleeping posture should not be used as a yardstick. The fact is that very few couples actually fall asleep wrapped around them.

After all, one’s own sleep preferences should also be preserved in a partnership and it is not very beneficial if there is a constant sleep deficit. Therefore, some people prefer to move away from their partner a little to make themselves comfortable.

However, this should not be taken personally and should not be understood as a sign of a crumbling relationship. If the partnership is based on trust and a solid foundation, you shouldn’t worry about it.

Only when your partner noticeably turns away from you and maybe even consciously keeps your distance should you seek the conversation.

At first glance, however, it is completely normal that both partners need a certain amount of space to sleep in the relationship. Especially when the sleep behavior is very restless, both sides benefit from allowing each other space.


Has your partner fallen asleep on your arm, but your arm is still buried under your body and falls asleep, but you don’t want to wake up your partner either?

Then you will probably quickly feel the feeling that your arm is falling asleep and appearing numb . This numbness occurs when a nerve is pinched off. The transmission of stimuli is disturbed so that you can no longer perceive your arm.

This feeling is not directly related to damage to your body and is harmless. If you lie awkwardly during the night, it can even happen that the arm is numb for hours and you only notice this in the morning.

If you move your arm again, it tingles slightly and it can take a few minutes until it is fully mobile again.

However, if the arm regularly falls asleep and it is not your partner’s “fault”, you should check whether there is a serious illness behind it.

Causes can be, for example, long work at the PC and an incorrect sitting posture . Muscles and the spine could suffer and interfere with the transmission of stimuli.

It is also possible that a herniated disc in the cervical spine radiates into the fingers and causes a reduced transmission of stimuli there. If you suffer from numb limbs frequently, you should clarify this with a doctor.


It is certainly a nice feeling to fall asleep closely with your partner. The security and closeness to the body have a calming effect and the stress of the day falls away.

However, you shouldn’t take it personally if your partner asks for a little more freedom in bed. Close physical contact is restrictive for some people and can significantly reduce the quality of sleep.

So allow yourself in bed the possibility that everyone can fall asleep in their usual position and you will not suffer from a lack of sleep even during a long relationship.

Jamie Clark

Hello, I’m Jamie Clark, 32 years old, and I have been living in the USA for a few years.
Since I was a child, I have suffered from a house dust allergy, severely affecting me. I felt the effects both while exercising and while sleeping. Constant sneezing after getting up and difficult breathing were the consequences. The allergy has also developed into asthma, which is still a sporting restriction today.

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