Help, the baby is not sleeping! Tips for tired parents

Many parents know the problem. As soon as the desired child is born, everything is turned upside down. What is sleep Instead of seven to eight hours of sleep at night, many parents have to change diapers, prepare bottles or breastfeed. During the day there is hardly any time to rest and so mom and dad go through everyday life tired. There are a few strategies that can be used to counter this trend. Knowing the reasons for babies’ sleep problems can fix them.


Of course, there are numerous reasons why a baby might sleep poorly or poorly. Mom and Dad quickly get the feeling that their own child is up almost around the clock. Of course, there is also the other extreme that the baby almost exclusively sleeps . If in doubt, it is advisable to discuss unusual sleep patterns with the pediatrician during the preventive medical check-up.

If the child wakes up frequently, sleeps poorly or otherwise does not sleep enough, there can be numerous reasons. Some are organic, others just a phase. The most common reasons for poor baby sleep are well summarized in this article . In any case, it is essential for parents to understand the reasons for the lack of sleep. Only in this way can they take measures to improve the child’s sleep and to sleep more and better themselves.


Small children in particular have a great desire to be close. From an evolutionary point of view, babies belong to the so-called carrying babies. They have to be carried around by a caregiver after they are born because they cannot move on their own yet. So you are dependent on other people. This is shown again and again in the fact that newborns best fall asleep in mom’s or dad’s arms . Many babies then do not want to be put down either. As soon as the familiar closeness fades, they wake up. Children’s need for autonomy does not arise until much later, around their second birthday.

Parents should therefore give their children as much closeness and security as possible. It has been proven that children close to their caregiver sleep longer, deeper and more restful. You can hear the parental breathing, feel the warmth and also perceive the parents odor. It is also normal, and not just for infants, to wake up regularly at night. This is a human protective mechanism. Then, when the infant realizes he is alone, he cries and screams to draw attention to himself.

In order to give the child the necessary closeness, more and more parents are switching to so-called co-sleeping. The family bed is big enough for parents and child or children so that everyone can sleep together. Various studies show that co-sleeping ensures better sleep. Mothers and babies who share a bed adapt their waking and sleeping phases to one another and thus sleep better overall. Parents in particular want to sleep alone again at some point. This wish is only too understandable. The transition from the family bed to the children’s bed should be gentle and without pressure. The child must always have the feeling of being able to return to the protective arms of the parents.


Rituals are an important part of everyday family life, especially for babies. You come to a strange, loud, bright world full of strangers and you have to slowly learn to find your way around. If mom and dad then create a few clear rituals that always run in the same way, it creates a framework in the crazy world. A bedtime ritual is clearly one of them. This can be designed individually. Possible components of a bedtime ritual:

a pleasant, warm bath for relaxation
a sleep story or a few favorite songs
Breastfeeding or a bottle of pre-milk
Cozy hour in the darkened bedroom
Mama sings and hums
put on a fresh diaper
Put on cozy pajamas and a sleeping bag

The content of the bedtime ritual should always be the same. Then, by the way, it is less important that it always takes place at exactly the same time. The baby learns early that the pajamas and darker lights mean they will soon be going to bed. It comes to rest and tends to fall asleep better.

Tip: It can take up to two weeks before a new ritual is established. Parents shouldn’t lose heart too soon. If something doesn’t work at all, it is wise to try other things.


A good sleeping environment is one of the most important factors in getting a good night’s sleep. Adults are also familiar with the problem: if it is too hot in the bedroom, they can no longer sleep well. A safe environment is even more important for babies as it helps prevent sudden infant death syndrome . The ideal sleeping temperature is around 16 to 18 degrees Celsius. The warmer it is, the thinner the baby should be dressed. In addition, the bedroom should always be well ventilated. Cigarette smoke is of course an absolute taboo in the child’s bedroom.

In addition to these clear, hard facts, the sleeping environment should of course be adapted to all family members who sleep together in the same room. This applies to the size of the bed (keyword family bed), the order in the room and any night lights. Families have to try out what suits them and gives them peace of mind.


In order to ensure a good night’s sleep for everyone involved, parents should pay attention to their child’s needs. These often indicate whether everything is OK or whether there are currently any problems that are affecting the child’s sleep. If parents ensure that their child can sleep full, clean and without pain, children simply sleep better. And quiet baby sleep is almost a guarantee for good sleep for parents.

Jamie Clark

Hello, I’m Jamie Clark, 32 years old, and I have been living in the USA for a few years.
Since I was a child, I have suffered from a house dust allergy, severely affecting me. I felt the effects both while exercising and while sleeping. Constant sneezing after getting up and difficult breathing were the consequences. The allergy has also developed into asthma, which is still a sporting restriction today.

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